After date, short message usually enough to explain whether you wan meet again. You no need calculate ideal waiting time or create uncertainty to look interesting.
Talk wetin you really mean
If you enjoy di date, mention one specific thing: “I enjoy our talk about cooking. You go like make we meet for lunch next weekend?” Offer plan wey easy to accept, decline or adjust. No book expensive activity before di other person agree.
If you need time to think, you fit say so without promising another date. “Thank you for meeting me. I go like small time to think whether I wan continue dating” dey give more information pass excited promises wey you no plan to keep.
No invent story to fill uncertainty
Short or late reply no explain person motives. No guess say dia response must connect to being trans, past relationship or something wey you talk. If dem no answer, give space instead of sending messages through other channels.
Decline without reviewing di person
You fit say: “Thank you for yesterday. I no feel di connection wey I dey look for, so I no wan arrange another date.” You no need criticize dia looks or identity, or offer friendship wey you no want.
If di other person decline, acknowledge am once. Clear refusal no need counterargument. Each person fit decide whether to continue, even if di evening look enjoyable to di other one.
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Love is respect: understand personal boundaries. Di practical examples above na suggestions from di editors, no be research findings or guarantee say any particular result go happen.