Before you share information as you dey date, ask wetin di other person need for di decision wey both of una dey make. To arrange coffee fit require meeting place and time, no be your house address or full work schedule. Dis guide na everyday review of wetin you disclose, no be promise of anonymity.
Separate useful details from details wey identify you
Read your profile like person wey no know you. Interest like gardening give person something to start conversation with. Description of di exact shop where you work every weekday give dem different kind information. Choose di amount of detail deliberately instead of adding am because space dey for di text field.
Look beyond individual sentences. Workplace name, photograph of building and your regular arrival time fit join together tell fuller story. You fit describe di activity wey you enjoy without publishing di whole routine around am.
Check di audience for each action
Profile wey members fit see, private message and page for open web get different audiences. Read di setting for di action wey you dey take; no assume say one privacy choice apply to everything wey you post.
When another person ask make una move conversation elsewhere, consider wetin di new contact method go reveal. You fit say, “I prefer make we continue to chat here for now.” You no need provide second channel to prove say you dey interested.
Leave other people information out
Before you share story, photo or screenshot, check whether e identify another person. Remove di material or ask permission instead of treating friend or former partner as background detail. Trans person identity or previous name no be your own to disclose because e help explain story.
If you want advice about interaction, describe di situation with your own words without circulating di whole message history. Share only di detail wey di question need, and no assume say trusted recipient automatically know wetin must remain private.
Review wetin already visible again
After you change job, move house or decide on different audience, review old descriptions and images. Remove information wey you no want continue to provide through di service. Dis one limit wetin you continue to publish; e no prove say people wey see am before keep no copies.
Choose future disclosures when di time reach. Familiarity fit grow without requiring complete personal archive. Person wey respect limited answer fit continue di conversation with di information wey you actually choose to share.
Further reading
eSafety Commissioner: online dating. Di review questions above na editorial suggestions; settings and removal options different from one service to another.