Better first message dey give person one small, clear reason to reply. You no need special opening line because di person wey you match with na trans. Start with something wey dem choose to share about demself.
Use one detail, no use category
If dia profile mention drawing, try: “I notice say you like to sketch buildings. Any place dey wey you really wan draw?” This one invite talk about dia interest. But “I don always wan try to date trans person” go make di talk focus on your own experience with one group of people.
Di opening fit be just two sentences: one thing wey you notice and one question. No turn am to interview with five questions or long story of your life. If di profile no get plenty detail, give choice: “For your ideal afternoon, you go choose film, walk, or something else?”
Make di talk go both ways
When dem answer, share something about yourself before you ask another question. If una no share di hobby, interest to learn dey enough; to pretend say you be expert go make di talk start on false ground.
No begin with questions about dia body, medical history or former name. Say dia profile mention trans no mean say na those things una suppose discuss.
Give space for reply
Send your message and continue your day. Late reply no give enough information to explain how person dey feel. To demand attention again and again dey add work for di receiver. If dem no reply, leave di conversation there instead of using another account to contact dem.
Message na invitation, no be obligation. These examples na suggestions wey you fit change to your own voice, no be scripts wey guarantee reply.
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Love is respect: understand personal boundaries. Di practical examples above na suggestions from di editors, no be research findings or guarantee say any particular result go happen.