You no need put label on another person character before you decide say you no want wetin dem request. First focus on wetin dem dey ask you to do and whether you free to decline. Dis guide give practical responses to pressure, no be diagnosis of behaviour or assessment of individual relationship.
Name di action wey dem request
Statement like “If you trust me, you go share your password” contain one exact request: access to account. You fit answer that request directly: “I no go share my password.” You no need prove trust through another kind disclosure.
Other requests fit concern photographs, travel, time or telling person private information. Separate di practical decision from di accusation wey dem attach to am. If person call you unkind or say your commitment no reach, e no mean say you must agree.
Make short answer possible
You fit say no without long explanation wey go turn to material for more debate. If you want offer another option, make e be something wey you truly choose: “I no want home visit. I fit consider meeting for café.” You no owe person another option just because dem ask.
Avoid changing di wording again and again because you hope to find refusal wey di other person go approve. Refusal no become invalid because e disappoint dem. If person continue to ask, that one no create new permission.
Keep other people out of di persuasion
If dem ask friend or relative to convince you, you fit state say di decision na your own and you no want middle people. In di same way, no ask other people to pressure partner to accept your invitation or disclose dia history.
Trans person private identity information must never become bargaining tool. If person threaten to embarrass you or disclose information, these ordinary conversation examples no fit decide di best response for your circumstances. Seek help wey fit di situation instead of treating one particular refusal script as something wey you must follow.
Choose how much further contact you want
You fit pause, end conversation or decide not to meet. Consider di service reporting and blocking options wey dey available without assuming say dem prevent every form of contact. If you believe say immediate danger dey, seek local emergency assistance.
You no need final debate to justify why you stop. These examples concern how decisions go remain voluntary; dem no fit decide another person motives or guarantee say dem go respect response. Use di information wey you get to choose wetin you go participate in, instead of trying to make person agree say your limit reasonable.
Further reading
Love is respect: personal boundaries. Di examples here na editorial responses to requests, no be clinical or legal advice.