You do not have to label another person's character before deciding that a request is unwanted. Focus first on what they are asking you to do and whether you can freely decline. This guide offers practical responses to pressure, not a diagnosis of behaviour or an assessment of an individual relationship.
Name the action being requested
A statement such as “If you trusted me, you would share your password” contains a specific request: access to an account. You can respond to that request directly: “I am not sharing my password.” There is no need to prove trust through a different disclosure.
Other requests may concern photographs, travel, time or telling someone private information. Separate the practical decision from the accusation attached to it. Being called unkind or insufficiently committed does not require you to agree.
Make a short answer possible
You can say no without giving a long explanation that becomes material for further debate. If you want to offer an alternative, make it something you genuinely choose: “I do not want a home visit. I would consider meeting at a café.” You do not owe an alternative simply because someone asks.
Avoid repeatedly changing the wording in the hope of finding a refusal the other person will approve. A refusal does not become invalid because it disappoints them. Someone continuing to ask has not created new permission.
Keep other people out of the persuasion
If a friend or relative is asked to convince you, you can state that the decision is yours and that you do not want intermediaries. Likewise, do not ask others to pressure a partner into accepting your invitation or disclosing their history.
A trans person's private identity information should never become a bargaining tool. If someone threatens embarrassment or disclosure, these ordinary conversation examples cannot determine the best response for your circumstances. Seek help appropriate to the situation rather than treating a particular refusal script as something you must follow.
Choose the amount of further contact
You may pause, end a conversation or decide not to meet. Consider the service's available reporting and blocking options without assuming they prevent every form of contact. If you believe there is immediate danger, seek local emergency assistance.
You do not need a final debate to justify stopping. These examples are about keeping decisions voluntary; they cannot determine another person's motives or guarantee that a response will be respected. Use the information you have to choose what you will participate in, rather than trying to secure agreement that your limit is reasonable.
Further reading
Love is respect: personal boundaries. The examples here are editorial responses to requests, not clinical or legal advice.