Because you know say person be trans no give you permission to disclose that information to other people. Detail wey person share for date, message or one online setting fit no be something wey dem want make you repeat elsewhere. Ask about di audience instead of assuming say di information either secret everywhere or public everywhere.
Check wetin you plan to talk
Before introduction, tell your partner who go dey there and ask how dem want make you introduce dem. “Dis na Alex, my partner” fit be all wey dem need. No add identity history to explain dia appearance, name or relationship with you.
If you want tell friend about date, describe your own experience without turning di other person trans identity to di main story. You fit say you enjoy conversation about music without sharing information wey di person never authorise you to repeat.
Treat permission as something exact
Permission to tell one friend no be permission to tell family group, colleague or online audience. Ask again when audience or purpose change. Person fit also want do dia own introduction instead of you speaking for dem.
For example: “You want make I talk anything about your identity before di visit, or make I just introduce you with your name?” Accept di answer without demanding explanation. No use your curiosity or convenience as reason why you need disclose more.
Notice indirect disclosure
Photograph, event tag or comment fit give context even without direct label. Before you post picture of both of una, ask about di image and di description wey go follow am. Avoid sharing previous name, old photograph or private message as background for ordinary update.
No ask mutual acquaintances to confirm person history. If practical question still relevant to plan, ask di person directly and allow dem give limited answer. You no get right to gather information from other people because conversation no satisfy your curiosity.
Respond honestly if you share too much
Name wetin you disclose and who you tell. Remove material wey you control and ask di recipients make dem no repeat am, without promising say every copy or memory fit erase. Ask wetin di affected person want from you next instead of announcing public apology wey go reveal di information again.
Di person fit change wetin dem share with you or choose to end contact. Apology no require dem to reassure you. Future care mean say you respect di actual audience choices wey dem make, instead of deciding for dem wetin suppose remain private.
Further reading
Trans Journalists Association: Stylebook and Coverage Guide discuss disclosure and self-identification for reporting. Di dating situations here na editorial applications, no be legal guidance or scripts wey di source endorse.